With the fear of the unexpected set aside, potential humiliation, failure as well setting oneself up for rejection prevents many men from making that killer shot to approach a woman even when all the lights are green.
If you are the type, then I got some good news for you. Here are a few tips on how to pick up women that can work some magic for you.
Detach yourself from the outcome
Caring about what a woman will think of you when you approach her is a huge sign that you are destined to fail. To be realistic, it's true, there are so many women out there that you are totally incompatible with.
Probably, most of them are not your type whereas the opposite is also possible. Get over this, don't care if you will be rejected or succeed in your mission. Caring too much makes you do everything that you can to avoid messing up, but consequently, you end up messing it all up.
Remember that you are choosing her
When you go talking to a woman for the very first time, you should have the reason why you are talking to her at the back of your mind. It's most likely that the woman knows that you are trying to pick her up if at all you are not genuinely asking for directions. Others have tried it before you and many will still do in the future.
Always remind yourself that you are approaching her because you like her and hence it doesn't matter whether she likes your approach or not. Always keep in mind that you will not take her home if you don't like her.
Be enthusiastic and enjoy what your trying to do and she will too
Out of fear of the unexpected, most guys approach the pick up situation as if it is a horrifying experience whereas in reality, it is supposed to be a pleasurable one. Avoid trying to win her over immediately because there is a big possibility that you might fail.
Make her laugh and first try to find out the kind of a person the woman is. If you impress her with your first moves, winning her over will be easy and you can rest assured of the likelihood of having many more good and enjoyable interactions.
Avoid Immediate Compliments
When picking up a woman, avoid complimenting her especially her looks. It's not wrong to pay attention to details, but be careful; things might just turn ugly for you if you mention anything about her physical appearance.
If at all you must, compliment her accessories, clothing or anything that seems out of the ordinary to you, but not her looks. Not even when she has the most beautiful eyes in the world. She might take it that you are only interested in bedding her. Physical compliments should come much later.
Build an attraction immediately
When trying to pick up a woman, you must have the ability to convey the signs of a desirable and good mate. To some, these traits come naturally whereas to other they are a must learn. One important trait is confidence. Try as much as possible and project a lot of confidence even if it is the last thing that you are feeling inside. Just fake it.
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